20 TIPS for PARENTS FROM the TEACHER AND PSYCHOLOGIST…

20 TIPS for PARENTS FROM the TEACHER AND PSYCHOLOGIST JULIA GIPPENREITER 1 Disobedience is the only thing the child can oppose improper handling 2 “Problematic”, “difficult”, “naughty” and “impossible” children, as well as children “complexes”, “downtrodden” or “unfortunate” — always the result of malfunctioning of existing relations in the family 3 Course to adopt a child is to love him not because he’s handsome, smart, capable, excellent, assistant and so forth, and just like that, just for what it is! 4 …more than child abuse, the worse it becomes, Why is this? And because raising a child is not taming the Parents are not there to teach children reflexes 5 Than most parents are annoyed at the child, pull up, criticize him, the faster he comes to the generalization: “nobody loves Me” 6 discipline is not up, but after the establishment of good relations on the basis of their 7 do Not interfere in the case, which occupied the child, if he asks for help His laissez-faire you will tell him: “you’re all right! Of course, you can do it!”… Another thing, if he ran into serious difficulty that cannot be overcome Then the position of non-interference is not good, it can only bring harm 8 If the child is difficult and it is ready to accept your help, help him take only what he cannot perform himself, leave the rest to him to do; the development of a child new activities gradually give it to him 9 Personality and abilities of the child develop only in the activities which he does at his own request and with interest of 10 Teenage fashion similar to chickenpox — a lot of guys catch it up and carry in a more or less serious form, and a couple of years themselves smiling looking back But God forbid the parents at this time to enter into a protracted conflict with their son or daughter 11 Allow your child to meet with the negative consequences of their actions (or their inaction) Only then it will grow up and become “conscious” 12 Sow an act — reap a habit, sow a habit and reap a character, sow a character and reap destiny! To Express their dissatisfaction with individual actions of a child but not a child generally 13 to condemn the actions of the child, but not his feelings of dissatisfaction with the actions of the child should be systematic, otherwise it will grow into a rejection of his 14 Undesirable child behavior is a normal reaction to abnormal conditions of life 15 Strict mother emotionally separated from the child, at least he feels 16 Let the baby be yourself do Not push it all the time do Not teach it do Not read him lectures do Not attempt to exalt him don’t force him to do anything! 17 Is not less known that the monitoring of private activities interfere with this activity, and even destroys it? Following the signature, we can lose the idea, try to read with expression is to cease to understand the text 18 Self-knowledge and self-education is the first duty of parents and teachers, if they expect to raise children Without this personal work, they instead introduce a child to the culture, to burden his own problems, 19 In all cases, when a child is upset, hurt, failed, when he’s hurt, ashamed, scared when he had been treated rudely or unfairly, and even when he was very tired, the first thing what you need to do is let him know that you know about his experience (or condition), “hear” his 20 Not demand from the child impossible or difficult Instead, look at what you can change in the environment

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