Janitor will! Parents think that if…

Janitor will! Parents think that if you draw a child’s perspective pojanee – he tremble, terrified and begin to do everything to this terrible reality never come It will be how to make your bed, clean my room, study for one five – only to drawn parents the horrors have not come true will Never learn how it appears as something else I remember my mother taught me to knit the front stitch, I Have nothing happened, the hinges were confused, jacket for dolls didn’t work, I got cranky and yelled, I have nothing ever happens – See how well it turns out – my mother said – Here, only the needle should be kept so, and the loop to purl so I’ve learned, – I muttered, promazyvaya loop better and better – Who ever came up with that stupid knitting! – Yes, you have already obtained a normal jacket, – laughing mother – Yes, but I still will never learn to knit this stupid stitch! – I resisted, even though he saw that all turned out But I couldn’t admit that mom is right and I don’t In General, knitting I can do now But with a sewing machine did not work I had a great teacher of Economics, who willingly told me every time where I have growing hands She had me completely convinced, I believed her that my hands grow from there, and now I find it much easier to hem a curtain growing from there hands, than to stitch one seam on the machine, although I was taught to sew it on from 5 to 8 class, for four years Just this training was accompanied by the comment “who sews” and “what you messed up” Actually, for anybody not a secret that to teach anyone anything so I thought up forty years to learn to drive and the instructor at the driving school I with inimitable honesty said, learning to drive should be in eighteen years, and in forty you has nothing to learn “What are you doing?” – “Where are you going?” – “Step on the gas, I said!” – “well, who drives like that!” “where are you this came from on my head?” He roared like a wounded Buffalo, I was scared, crying, lost the last vestiges of self-control and realized that I’m stupid, but driving is not for me Is that, unfortunately, the first “you” to refuse its services of Course, nothing I had not learned Learned the other – needless to say that he never raised his voice to a Professional it does not need Anyone don’t need Sometimes the results are even sadder One elderly lady told me once, so I believed my mother’s perennial “you’ll never get married” (in fact – not able to sweep the floor, the bed runs crooked, and to wash the dishes doesn’t love who need this) – that I realized: the Prince is pointless to wait, need to grab the first available In the 18 years she has popped up in a hurry to marry the first counter, the first, who drew attention to it more, maybe there is not a chance needless to say that the marriage was desperately unhappy Remember one of our teachers in school said: “Fourteen times three is how much? Multiply a column, you idiots, you mind will not be able” No, I’m now able to multiply fourteen by three in mind, but every time you hear “you idiots,” I did not believe the column, and was angry with My son coming home from school in seventh grade, sadly said: “Mom, why are we constantly explain that we are fools, we can’t do anything, we won’t pass the exam, you will not get passport and go to the wipers? I can’t hear” I couldn’t hear the Eighth grade was in a different school, You idiots, you fools, you can not do anything, who are you need That you stand here, you sit here, who is holding a broom, who holds the pen, who sews, who writes, what were you thinking, why didn’t you watch what I tell you to do this? It all pours on the heads of our children every day, year after year, And even if the parents have the angelic nature of Solomon’s wisdom and endless patience, children will still hear a lot from the world, as they are not needed, not there, not sit, not doing something and even better they were not In transport and in the yard, at school and in the Museum store and on the street – children are not happy hands Off, don’t touch, how you behave, what you got here, what are you doing here, come on, get out of here, so, mouth closed In some of the world’s children, about the strangeness of love and very happy – in a cafe or on the street; I remember how weird it was in Italy where my three year old son was happy like a sunshine came; I remember how the owner of the wedding shop in Helsinki, hearing and understanding without translation my fierce whisper, “do not touch” – he laughed and allowed my eleven year old daughter to touch everything what you want https://vk com/the_discover In our country children get from the world the other feedback – I wish you never had anything good from you can’t do it And usually we are in a bad moment add: what are you torturing me, I long for you to blush, enough to make fun of me! – Why do you me at birth – children grumble, slamming the door, and it’s not an idle question As well to be an adult! No one will tell you “where your eyes were,” when you get ripped off the bumper, do not ask “the head you didn’t forget,” when you forget at home working paper, do not raise from the bed in the first hour of the night to get to hang in the closet carelessly thrown on a chair dress as Adults, we stop doing stupid things and mistakes – but we now don’t screw every one of them not respecting Son once said with a sigh: thirteen years is a lousy age: no one not moved by you and no one respects When I was little children generally not accepted to respect the Right to respect is not given from birth, it had to be earned, to earn, to prove that you’re worthy of respect of Children was supposed to fix Underline in red, to point out errors, to straighten, to correct, to fix the Best teachers already wrote – show your child where he is bad, and where good which he does; these practices remained unclaimed in mass school When I was a young teacher, just seven years older than students, I was once attacked on duty in the school computer lab: “Come quickly went to rest my feet! I told you!” She didn’t want to hear that the shoes are smenka, she stopped screaming only when he heard “this is our teacher” She apologized, “Oh, I thought you were a girl”… a girl can be In this value system is somehow fatally lack a basic respect for the person-to-person – worthy of respect when not only the oldest, wisest, just achieved, and just because he’s a man, he’s your brother, he is also God’s creation, it is also the image of God is Not only the teacher, but the girl is Not only the Deputy of the state Duma, but the prisoner Idea to respect children generally survives poorly in the domestic soil of Parents somehow don’t see the difference between respect and lack of respect and lack of boundaries Some are indignant – “why me in the ass he is now blowing?”, others explain that with respect to the choice of their children, so let them all move over and give the child to terrorize others in the pleasure And self-esteem do not Know a lot of adults, smart, beautiful, sometimes very successful, living with infinite confidence that they’re worthless, moral monsters that they can’t live that others tolerate them only through force or the grace of One life prove that they have a right to respect, others know nothing And will say terrible, and with God the relationship is not working, because It seems the same always unhappy teacher: well, not praying, not fasting? The whole year playing the fool, and now came? The entire post that you did – and now come to their senses? Well, you came to me? What do you want? Deuce, come and think about their behavior Before I had to think, and now everything is too late Deuce, deuce in a certificate, in the world to be a janitor But no I don’t want to leave it Better so We are not very good teachers we usually Do not have the strength, wisdom and patience We are not able to cope with their emotions We often behave as small, not as adults do, expecting the children that they will behave as adults, understand our pain, will be able to accept and endure, sympathize with us and act wisely and rightly, Some children do this, but this burden is heavy even for us sometimes But we love our children and do a lot of things right, because love has a striking property: it tells the right decisions don’t know how to do, do it for love, not go wrong And we will surely manage to turn out will get better and better – and succeed, because hope does not deceive, but love does not fail

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